A growing amount of evidence highlights the fact that men's mental health is in crisis. This can be attributed to a number of factors, pertaining in large part to the way in which males are socialized. Gender stereotypes dictate that being vulnerable and asking for help is a weakness and the opposite of masculinity. As a result, men experience higher levels of shame and guilt around their mental health challenges and are less likely to seek help.
Connectedness - and more specifically, perceived connectedness - is another major issue when it comes to men's mental health. Unlike women, men more often feel isolated and alone, void of meaningful social connection and support. As human beings, feeling valued, cared for and supported by others is critical to our well-being. So much so that lack of meaningful social connection is a greater detriment to health than obesity, smoking and high blood pressure, and strong social connection leads to a 50% increased chance of longevity.
I recently attended a training on suicide risk and safety planning. Early on, we were taught that when assessing suicide risk and safety planning, gender is considered a major risk factor to be mindful of. Believe it or not, 75% of the Canadians who die by suicide every year are men. Trans, gay and bisexual men, racialized men, middle-aged men, and older men are most at risk. While females are more likely to resort to self-harm (such as cutting and pills), men more often turn to lethal means (such as weapons and hanging) which are more likely to result in death.
Large-scale, systemic change is required. Until that happens, it's up to us to ensure the men in our lives get the care they require.
How do you know if a male in your life is struggling?
Usually, when people are struggling with their mental well-being, they act differently from their usual selves. This could look like:
If you notice this in a man you care about, you can help by speaking up and connecting them to different sources of help and support.
How do you approach a conversation to encourage men to seek help?
While broaching this conversation is never easy, it can make a world of difference. Your loved one may not realize they have an issue, it might be a lack of awareness. Ultimately, what can we do to help encourage men to seek help when needed?
If you or a loved one is struggling, MindBeacon is here to help with a variety of supports available in our Virtual Mental Health Therapy Clinic. If you are part of our Workplace Mental Health Program, please visit your company page for access to services covered by your workplace.