If you find yourself lashing out at your partner on a regular basis, it’s likely that you’re running into a personal emotional trigger within the relationship. An emotional trigger is anything - including a memory, an experience, or an event - that sparks an intense emotional reaction inside you. Emotional triggers are often associated with past difficult experiences (often in our childhood) or past traumas.
We all have emotional triggers, however, these might look a little different from person to person. Being familiar with your specific triggers (and how to deal with them) is an important aspect of maintaining good emotional health and relationships.
Emotional triggers may include reminders of unwanted memories, uncomfortable topics, another person’s words or actions, and sometimes even your own behaviors. Common situations within relationships that trigger intense emotions include rejection, betrayal, disapproval, unjust treatment, or feeling misunderstood.
In general, if you find yourself lashing out, it is important to take a look at some of your emotional triggers. Doing so with a professional can be helpful.
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